Considering Anal Sex? Here’s What You Need to Know!

Is Anal Sex Still Considered Taboo?

Increasingly less so. Anal sex was not very common in France until the 1960s but gained popularity through pornographic films, according to the Petit Larousse de la Sexualité. Today, it’s becoming more widespread: as per one of the latest reliable studies by Inserm in 2006, 37% of women and 45% of men reported having engaged in anal sex.

Do Men Really Love It?

In general, men are eager to explore what’s often seen as the “back door” because it’s surrounded by an aura of the forbidden and the taboo, which seems more exciting. One advantage of anal sex is the tightness and compression around the penis, which can heighten a man’s pleasure. However, if the pressure is too intense, the insertion and friction can become painful for both the man and the woman.

Why Are Women Generally Reluctant?

Firstly, there is no natural lubrication in the anus, making it a rather unforgiving entry point. The fear of pain and injury is definitely significant. Secondly, it’s a place associated with waste, which is neither glamorous nor erotic. This means that adequate preparation and hygiene are essential for making this practice enjoyable, or even tolerable.

How Should I Tell My Partner I Want to Try Anal Sex?

The most important thing is to have a conversation about it before any action takes place, especially if you feel unsure about the practice. It’s crucial to start off on the right foot. Assure your partner that you are comfortable with your body and there’s nothing to worry about, and that you will proceed gradually, together! Remember, it’s supposed to be fun. Also, make it clear that curiosity, not necessarily love, is your motivation. Your partner might not be comfortable with this type of sexual play either, so it’s important to agree before you begin. This is a key to exploring anal sex without risking your relationship.

What Precautions Should We Take Before We Start?

Be cautious: using a water-based lubricant is essential. It’s also important to gradually dilate the sphincter to avoid causing pain. You can use fingers or a sufficiently long sex toy for dilation. Introducing small objects like “lipstick”-sized sex toys can be risky because if the anus contracts, the object might get sucked in. Avoid using anything that can break! Other advice includes using a condom to prevent potential injuries from friction, and ladies, try to relax and breathe!

Can You Orgasm from Anal Sex? How?

The anal-rectal mucosa is rich in sensitive nerve endings. Introducing a finger or a sex toy too abruptly can cause pain. However, with proper lubrication, insertion can become neutral or even pleasurable, leading to orgasmic-like pleasures. Although the anus doesn’t have Krause’s corpuscles, which are nerve receptors found in the penis glans and clitoris, any body part can become erogenous if stimulated intensely and tenderly. The proximity to the vagina also gives women a dual sensation that can be very pleasurable and lead to an orgasmic response if the brain interprets these sensations as sufficiently exciting.

What Are the Best Positions for Maximum Pleasure and Minimal Pain?

It may be challenging for a woman to fully and passionately engage with her partner. Concerns like “What will he think of me in this position?” are common. Nonetheless, certain positions are recommended for ease and comfort. Doggy style works well as it allows for easy access and adjustment. The missionary position is equally suitable. Consider placing a small pillow under your hips to easily tilt your knees towards your shoulders, facilitating a gentle and pleasurable experience.

Special thanks to Frédéric Six, clinical sexologist. Find more from him at http://www.sexologiepositive.be/