Men’s Favorite Foreplay Moves: He’ll Melt with Pleasure!

How can you maximize his pleasure during foreplay? It’s a question many women ponder. Before diving into specifics, sexologist Claire Alquier emphasizes that personal preferences in sexuality vary widely and that there is no “one-size-fits-all” sexual blueprint to please a man. Essentially, it’s about experimenting, improvising, but above all, communicating with your partner and paying attention to his reactions when you take the lead.

Start by Stimulating His Most Sensitive Erogenous Zones

While many assume that a man’s favorite foreplay involves oral sex, there are numerous techniques that can provide pleasure without immediately focusing on his penis. The body has extensive erogenous zones that can be explored to escalate arousal and even achieve orgasm.

► Third-tier erogenous zones: Licking, nibbling, caressing, or kissing the neck, legs, stomach, buttocks, lower back, earlobes, and chest (including nipples) can increase desire and pleasure.

► Secondary erogenous zones: Touching, kissing, or lightly stroking these areas can further increase excitement. While they might not lead to orgasm (although it varies!), they greatly enhance pleasure. These areas include the pubis, thighs (especially the inner part), testicles, and the perineum (the area between the base of the penis and the anus).

► Primary erogenous zones: These are located on the genitals. For men, this means the penis and prostate. Stimulating these areas can push a man toward orgasm.

Masturbation: For Him and Mutual

Taking time to masturbate each other can “prepare the body to escalate in arousal and reach greater pleasure,” notes the sexologist. Massaging, squeezing, using both hands, one hand, or even feet or breasts (the famous “Spanish handjob”)—the variations are numerous! Mutual masturbation can also be beneficial. It “allows better communication with your partner and helps you learn what brings them pleasure.” Whether with fingers, hands, or even toys, masturbation is a way of discovering each other’s desires.

Oral Sex: A Classic to Revisit

Oral sex is undoubtedly a classic in foreplay. “The mucous membrane of the glans and shaft is very sensitive,” Claire Alquier reminds us. “It’s logical that this area is highly stimulating for a man.” Yet, it’s essential that both partners enjoy the act. Using your mouth, whether gently or with more pressure, you can adjust the intensity and pace, licking and kissing the shaft. Don’t forget to keep it wet to avoid any discomfort. To enhance your technique, you could also gently pull the penis down to a 90° angle, play with the testicles, or use your teeth sparingly—there are countless possibilities!

Prostate Stimulation: The Pinnacle of Pleasure for Men

Although still a taboo for many, internal stimulation of the prostate (through the anus) is an excellent way to trigger an intense orgasm in men. The “P-spot,” as it is called, is a small, walnut-sized bump located on the inner wall of the rectum, about 7 cm from the anus. Start by massaging the anus with some lubricant and then gently insert a finger. The finger should be directed toward the front of the pelvis. Initially brush the prostate lightly, and if it feels good, you can vary the pressure or massage more firmly. Choose the position that provides the most pleasure for the man. An original tip: you might just place a finger on the anus and vibrate the forearm on the penis side by pressing firmly on the area. However, ensure that both partners are comfortable with this idea. As with any practice, communication is crucial. Remember, lubrication is necessary because, unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own natural lubrication.

Gaze and Words to Intensify Sensations

The power of gaze is often overlooked in escalating arousal. The mental aspect of sex is as vital as physical touch. When you caress or lick your partner, watch their reactions, and look them in the eyes to fuel the passion. A final tip: before a date, “you can also use messages, photos, or sexting to build desire beforehand.”