8 Signs Someone Might Be More Likely to Cheat – Watch Out!

Fidelity is a fundamental rule for many relationships. While it is a given for most couples (some remain faithful their entire lives), it requires a clear discussion at the start of a romantic relationship to establish boundaries, says Christian Richomme, a psychoanalyst and couple’s therapist. “It’s crucial to set the boundaries of fidelity because we all have different definitions. For some, infidelity begins with suggestive messages, for others, it starts with a kiss.” Additionally, certain personality types are more prone to cheating on their partners. Here are eight signs that reveal these personalities before you get cheated on.

1. A constant need for validation: These individuals don’t cheat due to a lack of love for their partner but because they need reassurance about their own worth. “These personalities suffer from low self-esteem and can be in a form of emotional dependency,” observes the professional.
2. Difficulty managing frustration: Cheating can be a response to boredom and a sense of lacking. “Infidelity can be an immediate reaction to discomfort; if one is frustrated by not having what they want in their relationship, they might seek it elsewhere,” warns Christian Richomme.
3. A complicated relationship with commitment: Some dream of being in a relationship while also wanting to remain free. For the psychoanalyst, these personalities are characterized by “the need to have a partner without wanting to commit.” This makes them more inclined to infidelity.
4. A history of unstable relationships: Although having been unfaithful in the past doesn’t necessarily mean one will cheat again, it tends to be more likely if “one repeats the same stories and patterns” without trying to break these recurring relational patterns.
5. A perpetual search for novelty: Those who need constant stimulation and are always in search of new experiences might be more prone to infidelity because “they confuse routine with monotony. They seek stimulation and perceive routine as a threat,” emphasizes Christian Richomme.
6. An avoidant attachment style: Those who have an avoidant relationship style may also be more likely to cheat. “Cheating allows them to never fully commit to a relationship. These individuals fear closeness, and thus infidelity enables them to avoid a loss of self,” analyzes the professional.
7. Poor understanding of personal needs: Some people struggle to identify their needs and often keep things unspoken. “Since they fail to express themselves, they seek to fulfill their needs elsewhere,” adds the psychoanalyst.
8. An idealization of love: The thrill can be mistaken for passion by some. “Having another relationship helps maintain the myth of intensity with the forbidden acting as a stimulant,” clarifies Christian Richomme.

According to the psychoanalyst, it’s important to remember that the presence of any of these traits in your partner doesn’t automatically indicate they will cheat. “It’s a combination of these signs and the context that can create the risk.” He concludes by saying, “The issue lies with the cheater. It’s often an attempt to fix something within themselves.”