Can You Rekindle Romance After Years Apart? Find Out How!

Is it possible to reignite a romance years after drifting apart? Similar to the narrative in Gilles Lellouche’s film, Wild Love, released on October 16, 2024, where Clotaire and Jackie strive to rekindle a relationship that was strained by life’s ups and downs and years of separation, reviving love after a long time apart is a formidable challenge. Their journey, filled with passion and wounds, demonstrates that reconnecting requires genuine effort, yet it is not beyond reach. Céline Domecq, a couples therapist and the creator of the podcast The Paths of the Couple, firmly believes in this concept. From accepting each other to setting clear intentions and using effective communication tools, she provides key insights for approaching a renewed romantic endeavor smoothly.

According to her, “once you set an intention, you can achieve anything.” “The first step is to address and understand your personal changes, undertake some introspection, know who you are today, and what you want from this relationship. By putting all your cards on the table and being your true self with your partner, you allow them to make an honest choice.” It is also crucial to set aside fears and accept the past. “Some struggle with accepting their partner’s past, especially during the separation. It’s important to work on these fears by communicating. Active listening is a valuable tool. This means listening to your partner without interruption and trying to truly understand their experiences. There’s also ‘parrot phrasing,’ where you repeat what your partner has said to show that you have listened and understood them.”

Avoid making assumptions, which she describes as a “poison in communication.” “Try to hear what is being said for what it is and not look for hidden meanings. Knowing each other’s plans is critical. The future vision should be clear, much like a GPS for the relationship, albeit with the acceptance that there can be unexpected turns.” As for painful memories, avoiding them is counterproductive. “Unresolved frustrations need to be addressed to move forward, but without dwelling on the past daily. The idea is to take responsibility for your part so as not to blame the other,” explains Céline Domecq. “If everyone acknowledges their mistakes and does not lie about who they are today, then anything is possible.”

Once both partners have shown honesty, sincerity, and taken the time to listen to each other’s needs and expectations, the professional emphasizes the importance of focusing on the present. “Moving forward in the present is the priority. It’s the present that will establish a new form of security in the relationship.”