Dirty Talk Tips: 6 Ways to Spice Up Conversations in Bed!

Don’t Force It

Speaking just to please your partner? That’s a no-go. You need to feel the desire to speak up. If you’re not completely comfortable, you might end up laughing or using a childish voice. To keep it natural, don’t force yourself to speak; let your mouth open when you’re truly ready. Remember, if your partner uses naughty words, you’re not obligated to respond in kind. You might enjoy hearing them without wanting to reciprocate.

Start Softly

Begin with gentle words or simply express your enjoyment. Phrases like “I love this“, “more“, or “I love your arms, your hair” are great for starters. Jumping straight to “put it in my mouth” as an opener might just make everyone uncomfortable, especially if your usual lovemaking is more on the tender side and you both wear Minions underwear.

Adjust to the Situation

Sometimes, you might find yourselves making love quickly on the kitchen counter, complete with clawing, light spanking, and wildness—perfect for some dirty talk. Other times, sex may be gentle, with lengthy foreplay and sweet nothings exchanged amidst tender kisses. In such scenarios, softer words are appropriate. If you wish to change the pace, initiate with bolder actions that naturally lead to more explicit words.

Avoid Playing the Schoolmarm

While dirty talk can involve guiding each other, commands like “go faster“, “move down“, “do it again” should be communicated gently. It’s all about softly conveying what pleases you, whispering into your partner’s ear, and reciprocally asking: and what do you want?

Don’t Overdo It

Expressing yourself is good: voicing your pleasure with moans and “oh yes” can heighten the excitement. Remember, all five senses play a role. There’s no need to overdo it; pleasure isn’t proportional to the loudness of your voice or overly expressive facial expressions. Overacting can distance your partner from the sexual experience, similar to watching a movie with unconvincing actors.

Know When to Stop

Talking in bed isn’t about narrating the entire sexual encounter or speaking up every few minutes with “I love you“, “more“, “great“, “where are you?“. Just as you enjoy varying rhythms, switching positions, and changing toys, you should vary your vocalizations. Mix a few minutes of chatter with some quiet moments, and so on.