Spice Up Your Sex Life: Top Tips for Exciting Penetration!

The term “penetration” might conjure up the image of a starfish in the missionary position, staring at the ceiling, clueless about what to do with its limbs. This starfish might seem sad because it isn’t utilizing its limbs. However, this is just a stereotype: the starfish isn’t necessarily bored. It’s fully engaged in the moment, activating its senses, and connecting with the ebb and flow of sensations. It enjoys the interaction, the connection, and the setting. It might even be listening to music, relishing the sexual act against a backdrop of romantic or erotic tunes. Just because its partner appears to be more active from the outside, doesn’t mean it isn’t present. We can take a cue from it: surrender to the shared pleasure and what’s happening in our bodies. Now that it has taught us a valuable lesson, let’s see what it does when it decides to spice up the sexual act.

Clitoral Stimulation… From All Angles

A study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior in February 2017 revealed that intercourse alone isn’t the best practice for achieving orgasm. Penetration was critiqued: for climax, women benefit from a winning trio—kissing, external genital stimulation, and oral sex (cunnilingus, specifically). Only about a third of women climax from vaginal intercourse alone, while lesbians—who apply these three golden rules—are over 80% likely to reach orgasmic bliss. In other words, the clitoral glans, or the external part, enjoys being teased. Penetration, meanwhile, allows for internal clitoral stimulation (it’s well-placed, straddling the vagina inside the body). Thus, pleasure is an all-encompassing experience.

To enjoy this dual pleasure, don’t hesitate to touch yourself or guide your partner’s hand to do so. You can also enhance the sensation by changing positions, like missionary or woman-on-top. Add to this deep kisses, caresses on the breasts, or any other erogenous zone you fancy. In short, everyone can create their own magical formula.

Exploring Your Partner’s Body

For some, penetration represents a profound union, perhaps the ultimate expression of the desire to become one. To feel even more in sync, let your hands wander over your partner’s body (as much as the position allows; doggy style might be a bit restrictive). In missionary, for instance, it’s the perfect opportunity to hold your partner tighter, caress their buttocks, press them against you, brush their face, scratch their back, or tousle their hair. These actions strengthen bonds and make our hearts flutter. Because they, too, deserve their own “winning trio.” The notion that men are satisfied with penetration alone is a myth.

Dirty Talk and Other Risqué Expressions

To set the mood, dirty talk plays a crucial role. Naughty words can help escalate excitement for some. The language can be gentle, or more intense, even downright vulgar. It all depends on individual preference, habits, desires, and comfort levels. Sometimes, simple moans or urging for more can intensify pleasure. Other times, you might want to express something more obscene that feels transgressive. Engaging in saucy chatter isn’t mandatory, just an option. In bed, all five senses come alive. Some prefer to listen, others to watch, and still others focus on what they feel, the temperature, and so on.

Squeezing the Pelvic Floor

This group of muscles, extending from the pubis to the anus, surrounds the vagina. In essence, when toned, the vagina is tighter, making for a more “snug” penetration. It can be fun to squeeze these muscles during sex to enhance sensations. For instance, during missionary, contract while moving your pelvis forward, and relax as you move back. This double action not only encircles the partner more tightly but also increases your internal pleasure. The vaginal walls are stimulated more intensely.