Still in Love? Simple Ways to Know After Many Years!

As children, it was easy to determine if we were in love: simply pluck the petals from a daisy. As adults, unraveling the secrets of our hearts becomes more challenging. Popular culture inundates us with idealized romantic narratives far removed from everyday reality. According to couple’s therapist and sexologist Capucine Moreau, these idealized models lead us to confuse love with passion: “The initial passion is fleeting. Love is what follows, what we build together.” So, when the butterflies have flown away, how do we know if our feelings are still there?

Sign #1: You enjoy spending time together

Capucine Moreau suggests that finding joy in each other’s company is a good indicator: “A successful couple nurtures their relationship, they communicate, they engage in activities together, not just everyday routines.” Naturally, it’s not always easy to find time together when juggling professional and parental responsibilities. “What matters is the desire to spend time as a couple.” However, wanting solitude does not signify a lack of love: “As individuals, we also need our personal space. It doesn’t mean we love each other any less if we’re not inseparable,” the sexologist adds.

Sign #2: You are curious about each other

Do you still make an effort to ask your partner about their tastes, desires, or memories? According to Capucine Moreau, the continued curiosity about each other is a sign of a strong bond. After many years together, it’s common to think we know everything about each other and stop making efforts to explore further. “We are never done surprising each other,” the sexologist reminds us. This openness also involves accepting each other’s differences: “There are topics on which we will never agree. We need to accept our partners as they are, without trying to change or control them.” If you view your differences as opportunities to learn and be amazed, then there’s no doubt, you’re still in love!

Sign #3: You accept the fluctuations of love

Do you ever question your feelings for your partner, even though just yesterday, you were convinced it was forever? Don’t worry, that’s perfectly normal. Love, as we know, is a complex emotion. What is often left unsaid, however, is that it can also fluctuate. “Love isn’t constant,” emphasizes Capucine Moreau. “Some days, you might feel 90% in love, other days only 5%… It doesn’t necessarily mean there’s a problem.”

Stress, fatigue, hormonal cycles, conflicts, or sometimes for no particular reason at all: the variations in love respond to mysterious factors, and that’s what makes it truly enchanting! Perhaps the true proof of your attachment lies in your ability to embrace these moments of uncertainty.