Majority of Couples Split at This Age: The Surprising Constant Reason Revealed!

So soon? A French study conducted by the platform Coopleo.care reveals the average age at which couples today part ways. At the start of a romantic relationship, desire peaks. “Couples experience a honeymoon phase, fueled by dense secretions of sexual hormones. However, over time, these secretions naturally decrease,” notes family and marriage counselor Violaine de Laplagnolle.

Challenges in intimacy, a hectic daily life… Today’s lifestyle is frenetic: everyone is constantly chasing time, which leads to prioritizing work or children. “This is particularly true for women, who are expected to juggle numerous responsibilities daily. Partners often complain that there’s no time left for them. Yet, the mental load is predominantly carried by women, who struggle to find a balance between professional and family life,” the expert observes.

Thus, it’s relatively early when many couples begin to fade and drift apart, leading to a breakup: specifically, at the age of 33, according to the study. For Violaine de Laplagnolle, the breakup is often a shock for people in their thirties. “When couples come to my office around their thirties, they arrive with feelings of disappointment, disillusionment, and failure. They tell me they never thought they’d need help or guidance. They had imagined that life together would be simpler, smoother, easier—as if love was the only necessary ingredient in a marriage. They are often surprised when I tell them that a marital relationship needs maintenance and effort,” she explains.

“These days, we enter into relationships later, which means we’re more set in our ways about living independently. When people start a relationship, they maintain their own social lives while integrating a marital life. However, once a child comes into the picture, this adds both a family life and parental roles to their social and marital lives. This means making choices, prioritizing, and accepting certain responsibilities—this is where complications arise.” And this is where couples make a common mistake: “Each person pulls in their own direction when it’s actually time to reposition, reevaluate, and reinvent a couple’s dynamic that suits both.” Seeking help from a relationship professional should not be delayed. Meanwhile, Violaine de Laplagnolle advises: “Try to slow down and stop putting so much pressure on yourselves. Every couple is unique and must create their own formulas, knowing where to invest their energy to thrive as much as possible.“